“Time and tide waits for no man”
IT seems now more than ever that this adage is ever so true. Not only have we experienced the whirlwind of Christmas, but also suddenly find ourselves with the 2nd month of 2009 upon us and almost over.
This month we run our 6th Passed thru Fire Experience since its inception in 2006. It seems like just yesterday; the vision was burnt onto my heart to stand up and start doing what I felt God was leading me into… that was in 2002. And so the wheel turns again, and my hope is that the hamster not only falls off, but also gets some direction.
Now to things that matter.
I have dared dream the Big Dream, and it surely scares me more that you could know. Angus Buchan was for real when he said “if your dreams don’t scare you, they are not big enough”. The thing is when I had dared dream and then put it on paper (I will share it with you if you are interested), I realised that a lot of my dream has been taken care of and God has had his hand on me and this dream from the beginning. Passed thru Fire as a ministry is part of it and it’s not going to stop just there. PTF will be more and is destined to be more (with or without me). My heart is just to see it happen and trust that God will take care of the details and the plan.
With this is mind, it’s once again decision time for me and the ministry I am involved in. I am learning to trust God with this decision and then walk in faith that he will provide whatever is needed. Is it to raise support for full time? Or is it to raise supporters to keep it full time? It doesn’t really matter does it? Because God will have his way, and who are we to stand in the way.
I must say that I am encouraged by what lies ahead as Highbury Prep School has booked 3 events this year alone, and both Thomas More and St. Marys are showing interest. St.Marys are keen to run an event focussing on fathers and daughters - revealing Godly womanhood and men’s (Dad’s) role therein. Second to that is the fact that we are now receiving enquiries as to the setting up of PTF events in Gauteng and Mpumalanga. We will be doing our best to support churches in this Kingdom ministry.
I cannot but think back to our 5th event. What a blessing it was to see SO MANY dads excited and motivated in the spiritual wellbeing of their families. I am learning this year that the Kingdom of God has been forcefully advancing, and forceful men take hold of it. (Matt 11:12) In this I know that as a man I need to stand up and be counted. I need to do my part or nothing will change in the lives of those who are dependent on me and my action. Apathy is the sin of this generation of men, this generation of men who could well be the ones who God calls to a revolution. We are set apart and need to act like it. Talk… is after all, cheap.
All this I am experiencing and learning is a blessing and to be part of it is an honour, but I must say that a lot has occurred which has led me to be introspective as to my own walk, family life and spiritual well being. With that I have been and am focussing on self ministry through counselling (which we all need from time to time, especially in ministry), ministry and prayer as well and just getting to be a dad, husband and friend. It is surely a beautiful thing… as is the love of a family. Discovering who I am as King, Priest and Prophet in my family has been an adventure to say the least. I look at my Beautiful Wife, Estie, and my girls and all I can say is WOW. I am truly blessed beyond measure, and it motivates me to become more, so that I can bless in turn and be a blessing to God himself.
I am a new creation, and with that seek the renewing of my mind so that I can accept what is and take hold of it… It is an upward thing. It is Jesus, and HE is marvellous.
I pray the best for you all in Jesus for 2009. I pray for family.
In His grip
Daryl
Thursday, February 5, 2009
Tuesday, December 9, 2008
PTF v5.0
So we are finally back home.
Jsut when we felt we were ontop of it all as far as the PTF events, along comes a small group of 7 boys and totally blows all theories we have out the water. To say that God was in control at this recent event would be a gross understatement. I am in total awe of His works within the lives of boys and in this case thier dads.
The weekend was nothing but a testimony to Gods grace, love, and mercy within families where He is high and lifted up. From the onset, Dads had given glory to God in their lives and at every turn he was thanked. Emotions were raw and unhindered, but oh so real.
I am still trying to absorb and process the event as a whole, but i need to say that never before have i been touched like i was this weekend. I am left with a true and real hope for families and most importantly men who will raise families - strong Godly, God centered families.
Jesus is indeed The Way, The Truth and The Life.
Be Blessed
Daryl
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Afterglow
Its official! The Passed Thru Fire Experience Ver 4.3 has been completed!
We started with 19 boys and 19 dads 10 weeks ago, and ended the event with 15 dads and 15 boys all excited and desperately seeking rest and recovery time.
Every time we run this event I am left in awe of God's faithfulness and provision... Yes some have walked away with more questions than answers, but at least they are questioning. questions mean there is hope, and since God is faithful, he will provide the answers.
A few things I have been left with though is that alot of our sons are "mothered". So many boys are left in this world without basic life skills. All too often parents do so much for their chuildren out of love, but in the end this does more hard than good. We need to bring about a time of not so much "doing" for our children, but more a thing of showing and walking alongside. Instead we dive in and do it ourselves as we are not sure our boys would cope with the tast at hand and would rather have it done right the first time than tried and screwed up. Is failure not part of learning?
What has impressed me the most is fathers true desire to be good men in their sons lives and ultimatemately be good fathers. We keep saying to them: Be the man you wish your son to become". and indeed these dads are doing the best to become that man, even more so to become "King, Priest and Prophet" in their own homes.
A significant side effect of the Experience can be summed up by a verse in Malachi 4 whihc says: "In the end, the hearts of father will be turned to their sons and the hearts of sons to their fathers..."
I saw many hearts turn over the course of the event, and I have been moved ot tears... tears of joy. I got to feel God's heart for us through the hearts of fathers and sons. BLESS THEM!
So... Ver 5 is programmed and ready to roll Dec 2008. What will God bring this time?
If nothing else, it will be a time of our lives.
Daz
We started with 19 boys and 19 dads 10 weeks ago, and ended the event with 15 dads and 15 boys all excited and desperately seeking rest and recovery time.
Every time we run this event I am left in awe of God's faithfulness and provision... Yes some have walked away with more questions than answers, but at least they are questioning. questions mean there is hope, and since God is faithful, he will provide the answers.
A few things I have been left with though is that alot of our sons are "mothered". So many boys are left in this world without basic life skills. All too often parents do so much for their chuildren out of love, but in the end this does more hard than good. We need to bring about a time of not so much "doing" for our children, but more a thing of showing and walking alongside. Instead we dive in and do it ourselves as we are not sure our boys would cope with the tast at hand and would rather have it done right the first time than tried and screwed up. Is failure not part of learning?
What has impressed me the most is fathers true desire to be good men in their sons lives and ultimatemately be good fathers. We keep saying to them: Be the man you wish your son to become". and indeed these dads are doing the best to become that man, even more so to become "King, Priest and Prophet" in their own homes.
A significant side effect of the Experience can be summed up by a verse in Malachi 4 whihc says: "In the end, the hearts of father will be turned to their sons and the hearts of sons to their fathers..."
I saw many hearts turn over the course of the event, and I have been moved ot tears... tears of joy. I got to feel God's heart for us through the hearts of fathers and sons. BLESS THEM!
So... Ver 5 is programmed and ready to roll Dec 2008. What will God bring this time?
If nothing else, it will be a time of our lives.
Daz
Thursday, October 9, 2008
In the beginning... Version 1.0
Our first ever Passed Thru Fire Experience occured in April 2007 at a bush camp called Mbabatha's Kraal near Greytown KZN.
Here is a short video whihc shares the heart of the event.
Monday, July 14, 2008
Why the Experience?
A Rite of Passage Experience to lead young Boys onto a path towards Godly and Righteous Manhood is desperately needed in our times…
We, at St. Agnes Church, wish to invite you as Father and Son to attend this experience in the path assigned to young men of this Generation.
We believe that Christian men hold the key to the attributes that transform a boy into a man. We also believe boys are anxious to find that key and be affirmed in their quest for manhood. To this end, we have this unique event, The Passed Thru Fire Experience. It is an event designed for the men of the church to create a rite of passage that will help young teen boys understand and own the real duties and calling of manhood. This event and our involvement in it may just be the start of a boys walk towards manhood, but the results could mean a lifetime of difference for the boys whose lives we are entrusted with. If we, with your help as their father, are successful in our goal of instilling the true measure of manhood during this event, it will make a huge difference in future marriages, families, workplaces and communities.
We can prepare our boys to be men rather than let them stumble around and find out the hard way what it means to wear that title. Can we count on you? We hope so... If the men of the church don’t point our boys towards manhood, who will? Do we really seek a world filled with boy-men? Or do we seek a world led by Godly Men of Integrity, Honour, Righteousness, Courage and a Care for the weak?
In order for manhood to be attained, it must first be defined. To help young boys gain an understanding of what is required to be a true man, not merely an adult male.
We have selected six attributes that typify spiritual and masculine maturity. These include righteousness, integrity, courage, self-control, obedience and caring for the weak. In addition we need to investigate the concepts of loyalty, industry and responsibility to mention just a few, in the process of this major event of a boy’s life.
This event will not make an instant man of your son, but will rather set out a clear roadmap to help him become a man.
You are invited to this opportunity to further affirm our young boys into their calling as Godly men.
CAUTION: This Event contains serious life changing material and activities. If you are not willing to be changed, DO NOT APPLY!
We, at St. Agnes Church, wish to invite you as Father and Son to attend this experience in the path assigned to young men of this Generation.
We believe that Christian men hold the key to the attributes that transform a boy into a man. We also believe boys are anxious to find that key and be affirmed in their quest for manhood. To this end, we have this unique event, The Passed Thru Fire Experience. It is an event designed for the men of the church to create a rite of passage that will help young teen boys understand and own the real duties and calling of manhood. This event and our involvement in it may just be the start of a boys walk towards manhood, but the results could mean a lifetime of difference for the boys whose lives we are entrusted with. If we, with your help as their father, are successful in our goal of instilling the true measure of manhood during this event, it will make a huge difference in future marriages, families, workplaces and communities.
We can prepare our boys to be men rather than let them stumble around and find out the hard way what it means to wear that title. Can we count on you? We hope so... If the men of the church don’t point our boys towards manhood, who will? Do we really seek a world filled with boy-men? Or do we seek a world led by Godly Men of Integrity, Honour, Righteousness, Courage and a Care for the weak?
In order for manhood to be attained, it must first be defined. To help young boys gain an understanding of what is required to be a true man, not merely an adult male.
We have selected six attributes that typify spiritual and masculine maturity. These include righteousness, integrity, courage, self-control, obedience and caring for the weak. In addition we need to investigate the concepts of loyalty, industry and responsibility to mention just a few, in the process of this major event of a boy’s life.
This event will not make an instant man of your son, but will rather set out a clear roadmap to help him become a man.
You are invited to this opportunity to further affirm our young boys into their calling as Godly men.
CAUTION: This Event contains serious life changing material and activities. If you are not willing to be changed, DO NOT APPLY!
The Passed Thru Fire Attributes
The Passed Thru Fire Experience has been built around 6 Attributes which we ascribe to a Godly man... these are...
Courage:
Courage to Live the Christian Life is an important part of Manhood
Biblical Basis: 1 Corinthians 16:13
“Courage is essential for a Christian man. Courage means that you will be brave enough to stand alone for what is right even if it means you will lose all your friends and face ridicule. It means being able to speak the truth without fear. It means being willing to put yourself in harm’s way, both physically and emotionally, for the sake of God. Are you willing to be a man of courage?”
Righteousness:
Righteousness is about a Godly Man having a right standing with God because of Jesus’ Blood shed for him.
Biblical Basis: Romans 3:20-22; 5:17; 2 Corinthians 5:21; Galatians 2:16
“The cornerstone of manhood is a real and personal relationship with God. Being a man of righteousness—in right standing with God and man—is the most important part of being a man.
This is something that is not just a one-time decision. You must renew your relationship with God daily and keep clean accounts with your fellow man. Are you, , willing to be a man who loves God with all your heart and will love your neighbor as you love yourself?”
Obedience:
Obedience to God and to those whom he has put in authority is a fundamental duty of Godly Manhood
Biblical Basis: Jeremiah 7:23; Luke 7:1-10; Acts 5:25-29; Romans 13:1-7
“Real men understand authority. We know that we must have God as our final authority.
We know that God has given us wise leaders, and it is our duty to listen to them and, as long as they stay in line with God’s teaching, to obey what they ask. For a short time more, one of the primary vehicles of God’s authority in your life will be your parents, but once you leave home you must still submit to godly authority. Are you willing to bow your will and obey those whom God has given to guide and protect you?”
Integrity:
Integrity because a Real Man lives a life of Honesty, Trustworthiness and Integrity
Biblical Basis: Psalm 15:1-5; Proverbs 12:22; 22:1; Daniel 1:1-17; Matthew 5:37
“Christ calls us to ‘men of our word.’ What comes out of our mouths should be true, our commitments and promises unshakable. We are called to be honest in all that we do and say. Cheating, deception or lying are not the traits of a man of God. Are you, , willing to be a man of integrity?”
Self Control:
Self-control is an essential mark of godly manhood
Biblical Basis: Genesis 39:7-20; Joshua 6:17-19; 7:1, 20-21; 2 Samuel 11:2-5; Proverbs 25:28
“A mark of a real man is self-control. Each man has desires, lusts, appetites and emotions that pull hard at him from time to time. A Christian man says no to those desires if they are the wrong things for the moment. He disciplines his mind and body to do what is right, even if he feels like doing something else. In particular, a man of God must control his sexual desires and actions, he must say no to his flesh. Are you willing to be a man who is self-controlled in both your physical actions and in your emotions?”
Care for the Weak:
Care for the Weak because a Real Man assumes the Obligation to care for and protect the weak and unfortunate.
Biblical Basis: Matthew 25:31-46; 1 John 3:17-18
“The world is full of people whom life seems to have left behind. Some of them are poor, some are unattractive and some just don’t fit in. It is the calling of a Christian man to care for, protect and show love to these people. It will be your job to stand up for the ill fitting person who is being ridiculed by others. It will be your job to protect those who cannot defend themselves. Are you willing to be a man who will love the unlovely and protect the weak?”
Courage:
Courage to Live the Christian Life is an important part of Manhood
Biblical Basis: 1 Corinthians 16:13
“Courage is essential for a Christian man. Courage means that you will be brave enough to stand alone for what is right even if it means you will lose all your friends and face ridicule. It means being able to speak the truth without fear. It means being willing to put yourself in harm’s way, both physically and emotionally, for the sake of God. Are you willing to be a man of courage?”
Righteousness:
Righteousness is about a Godly Man having a right standing with God because of Jesus’ Blood shed for him.
Biblical Basis: Romans 3:20-22; 5:17; 2 Corinthians 5:21; Galatians 2:16
“The cornerstone of manhood is a real and personal relationship with God. Being a man of righteousness—in right standing with God and man—is the most important part of being a man.
This is something that is not just a one-time decision. You must renew your relationship with God daily and keep clean accounts with your fellow man. Are you, , willing to be a man who loves God with all your heart and will love your neighbor as you love yourself?”
Obedience:
Obedience to God and to those whom he has put in authority is a fundamental duty of Godly Manhood
Biblical Basis: Jeremiah 7:23; Luke 7:1-10; Acts 5:25-29; Romans 13:1-7
“Real men understand authority. We know that we must have God as our final authority.
We know that God has given us wise leaders, and it is our duty to listen to them and, as long as they stay in line with God’s teaching, to obey what they ask. For a short time more, one of the primary vehicles of God’s authority in your life will be your parents, but once you leave home you must still submit to godly authority. Are you willing to bow your will and obey those whom God has given to guide and protect you?”
Integrity:
Integrity because a Real Man lives a life of Honesty, Trustworthiness and Integrity
Biblical Basis: Psalm 15:1-5; Proverbs 12:22; 22:1; Daniel 1:1-17; Matthew 5:37
“Christ calls us to ‘men of our word.’ What comes out of our mouths should be true, our commitments and promises unshakable. We are called to be honest in all that we do and say. Cheating, deception or lying are not the traits of a man of God. Are you, , willing to be a man of integrity?”
Self Control:
Self-control is an essential mark of godly manhood
Biblical Basis: Genesis 39:7-20; Joshua 6:17-19; 7:1, 20-21; 2 Samuel 11:2-5; Proverbs 25:28
“A mark of a real man is self-control. Each man has desires, lusts, appetites and emotions that pull hard at him from time to time. A Christian man says no to those desires if they are the wrong things for the moment. He disciplines his mind and body to do what is right, even if he feels like doing something else. In particular, a man of God must control his sexual desires and actions, he must say no to his flesh. Are you willing to be a man who is self-controlled in both your physical actions and in your emotions?”
Care for the Weak:
Care for the Weak because a Real Man assumes the Obligation to care for and protect the weak and unfortunate.
Biblical Basis: Matthew 25:31-46; 1 John 3:17-18
“The world is full of people whom life seems to have left behind. Some of them are poor, some are unattractive and some just don’t fit in. It is the calling of a Christian man to care for, protect and show love to these people. It will be your job to stand up for the ill fitting person who is being ridiculed by others. It will be your job to protect those who cannot defend themselves. Are you willing to be a man who will love the unlovely and protect the weak?”
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
PTF Version 4.1 & 5 set to go...
YES we have dates...
Event 4.1 set for 17-20 July 2008. Venue still to be confirmed and is dependant on numbers. The sessions will be covered on the following dates @ St.Agnes Kloof:
1. 10th July 08 - 5pm to 8pm
2. 12th July 08 - 8am to 12pm
3. 15th July 08 - 5pm to 8pm
Please confirm your booking ASAP.
Event 5 is set for 23 to 26 October 08.
Grade 7 boys only (13/14yrs of age)
Venue should to be confirmed.
Bookings is essential as we are limited to 16boys maximum.
Sessions will run for 7 weeks prior at St.Agnes Church in Kloof.
Please contact me should you wish to participate with your son.
Daryl
daryl@passedthrufire.org.za
Event 4.1 set for 17-20 July 2008. Venue still to be confirmed and is dependant on numbers. The sessions will be covered on the following dates @ St.Agnes Kloof:
1. 10th July 08 - 5pm to 8pm
2. 12th July 08 - 8am to 12pm
3. 15th July 08 - 5pm to 8pm
Please confirm your booking ASAP.
Event 5 is set for 23 to 26 October 08.
Grade 7 boys only (13/14yrs of age)
Venue should to be confirmed.
Bookings is essential as we are limited to 16boys maximum.
Sessions will run for 7 weeks prior at St.Agnes Church in Kloof.
Please contact me should you wish to participate with your son.
Daryl
daryl@passedthrufire.org.za
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